Cant believe how rapidly im growing old and with such a huge baggage of memories which I sometimes feel hard no very hard to carry around.One day a friend of mine asked me as to why was I so averse to commitment, emotional bonding more importantly LOVE and ya that what follows it Marriage…I asked myself Is it so????? No its not it cant be coz I Love with all my heart and when I love I do it to the extremes and that’s what my problem is. I find these day to day flings affairs very superficial and I adjust<>
How big is the con of men….and it works most of the times…I cant cry for my family as it’s a tradition and cant live with a man who comes with this kind of attachments to family and has a modulated way of thinking cant see beyond objects or lives. I agree that this institution as worked for may be a billion years and might have its magic for a couple more centuries, but for me marriage is never ever a settlement, if it has to be something it has to be a achievement, a state which I fabricated with outmost love and passion. Marriage, ever wondered who started it…..
From time unknown marriage has been a negotiation, bargain and a deal, they say greatly that people who love each other a lot get married to stay committed to one another. another misconception if you love each other so much why would you need a piece of a paper to certify that…there is no relationship in the world which is as complicated as that shared between man and his wife. A man if pays for sex alone then the women is a prostitute and if the same man maintains a lady in his house,pays for her food and everything else, what he gets is sex and children as his hire then its one of the most chaste relationships….and also one more point should be noted that chastity is only comes into play in a relationship between a man and a women….People's ideas and sentiments about marriage are many and varied. Hell, even limiting the people in consideration to myself... my ideas and sentiments about marriage are many and varied. And complicated. Totally complicated. In fact, I might even go so far as to say... my thoughts on the subject of marriage are a total mess.
I feel marriage is a culprit, when you find some one you love them selflessly and you would be ready to do anything , go to nay extents to be with them and then you get married and every feeling takes a reverse gear, you start expecting ,demanding and again become all the more judgemental…..it is really required to kill all the love so divine in nature for marriage..ill never understand. and this is totally not for people who get into arranged marriage…that’s a concept so orthodox still prevalent amuses me…can’t understand how people so strange kick start their lives together and 90% of that marriage works as they say they have elders support…blah blah blah …the real reason they work is becoz to succeed anything we need a plan sought of a formula you stick to it…al will be fine..as long as you have people telling you over and over again until it get sketched to your brain how to succeed your marriage …arranged marriages will seldom fail…but that’s not how life works….for all I know ,my life is not mathematical equation…
I have my life, aspiration and after all I don’t want to live my life all my life trying to make one mistake of my life a success….I so wish life could be a lil bit less complicated…and indeed it is if you have others tell you what to do …you become completely irresponsible of your life such a relief ….anything goes wrong you can always say my mom told me to do so and accuse people for your life if at all be a mess….as simple as that ….
Would I Wanna take responsibility of my life or take a step back and have others make decisions for me all my life …।well I Don’t think so॥if I do anything it has to be when I think its right or else ill never be able to forgive myself…and as far as emotional bonding is concerned lets see …when my heart says its right …..
Until then no con for me Plzzz….
